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Ten Things Not to Say After a Breakup PDF Print E-mail
Written by Administrator   
Wednesday, 09 November 2011 20:44

Check out the 10 things you should never, ever say to a friend after a break up.

After a long term relationship ends, we in the gay community often don't know what to do.  Sure, we're used to the three month rotating boyfriend, but what about when a long term couple breaks up. How do you support your friend without saying the wrong thing.  Here are some tips.

1. “Didn’t you see this coming from the beginning?” Busted! I glimpsed into the future and saw disaster and ruination but planned an entire life with him anyway because I enjoy a good crushing life-blow. Next time around, a little heads-up?

2. “I always hated [insert scorned ex’s name here].” Do you mean you always hated the man who I thought I would love forever and said so in front of everyone I knew on the best day of my life? Gee, thanks. (If you chose to marry (or have a domestic partnership with scorned ex, this statement is 168 times more offensive.)

3. “OMG. Do you think I’ll break up, too?” The good news for you is that breaking up is not contagious. The bad news is you may get dumped for being so damn insensitive and self-centered.

4. “How do you find the strength to get out of bed in the morning?” It’s a break up-- not the zombie apocalypse!

5. “My partner and I had problems -- but we decided to try harder and work it out.” Sometimes the best intentions, dogged determination, and all the counseling in the world just isn’t enough to fix what’s broke. That’s a scary thing to accept -- which I suppose is why many people haven’t.

6. "My partner and I have problems – just the other day we got in a big fight about whose turn it was to unload the dishwasher!” Can I please join you in your alternate reality?

7. “What a bummer! … Hey, does that mean I can mess around with him now?” Not unless you want to lose a friend for a fuck.

8. “When are you going to start dating again?” Immediately. Once those men see this tear-streaked basket case, I'm sure I'll be partnered again in no time.

9. “Oh no! Does this mean you are going to be a total whore now?” Yes.  Now that I'm single, I am going straight to the bath house.  Just because I was in a monogamous relationship for 6 years doesn't mean anything.  He was just holding me back from being a slut.  

10. But the worst thing to say to a newly single friend is … nothing at all. Call me dramatic, but many people will tell you that dealing with a break up is just as painful, stressful, and life-altering as dealing with a death of a loved one. If a friend had a close family member or friend pass away, would you avoid the topic and pretend everything was business as usual? No, you would say things like, “I’m here for you. You’ll get through this. I care about you.” Guess what? Same thing goes for divorce. Just because it’s awkward doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it.

Last Updated on Wednesday, 09 November 2011 20:58
 
Seth Rogan Disusses Being a Bear Icon PDF Print E-mail
Written by Spencer Winans   
Sunday, 02 October 2011 15:25

This Saturday Christopher Schulz, the mastermind behind Pinups magazine, will be releasing his first self-published art-book, titled Seth, adding a titillating new chapter to the world of erotic fan-fiction. The book is simple, without words, and depicts lovingly a chubby, nude thirtysomething man in various compromising positions and who looks remarkably similar to the actor Seth Rogen, so much so that Rogan discussed the issue with Conan O'Brien.

 

 

(Click "Read More" to see the uncensored photos, plus another not shown on Conan.  WARNING: Contains maie nudity.)

Last Updated on Sunday, 02 October 2011 15:42
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Eagle LA Honored by LA Pride PDF Print E-mail
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Friday, 03 June 2011 19:29

 

West Coast Singers

Eagle LA
Sheldon Andelson Award

The Sheldon Andelson Award recognizes an individual or business that exemplifies non-discriminatory support (financial and otherwise) to the LGBT community. This award is named for Sheldon Andelson, Bank of Los Angeles founder and one of the founders of the Gay and Lesbian Community Service Center.

An iconic experience – a dark bar, cold beer, a pool table, and people in leather – this is just another night at the EAGLE LA.

A place where all are welcome to come and celebrate their sexuality, and to meet others doing the same; the EAGLE LA creates an atmosphere where anyone can celebrate life.

A good night out with friends can be so much more, when you patronize places that support and give back to our community.

“The EAGLE LA is a central location for the Los Angeles Leather community; also it is a home for the young, and young at heart, to feel accepted. They attract a cross section of the community,” said Durk Dehner, co-founder and president of Tom of Finland Foundation.

Reopening in 2006, the EAGLE LA had been a serious supporter of many causes, including Los Angeles Leather Coalition (LALC), APLA, Being Alive, Aid for AIDS, Trevor Project, Children’s Hospital LA, Tom of Finland Foundation, Tweakers Project, Camp Laurel and the Lazy Bear Fund.

“Knowing the depth of need in [our] community it is an honor to be able to serve the community in which I live,” said Hunter Fox, general manager of the EAGLE LA.

For all the EAGLE LA, their staff and owners do for the community in which they all reside, they have received numerous and varied awards. Some highlights are The Rainbow Key Award from the City of West Hollywood, Southland Honors Business of the Year 2007, and Pantheon of Leather Business of the Year 2007.

“The location has always been a popular bar, but it was the current ownership that has taken it to the next level, making it a community gathering place that is always willing to help,” Dehner said.

The EAGLE LA has successfully created a location for multiple generations, sub-cultures and organizations to mix and mingle, connecting and creating bonds. It is a cross generational meeting place; a place for old Leather hands to mix with those just exploring what it is all about; and always looking at how to help the community.

“We enjoy hosting fundraisers for groups and organizations,” said Charlie Matula, Eagle LA owner.

For their continued support of the community, and always being open to everyone, Christopher Street West proudly awards the 2011 Sheldon Andelson Award to the EAGLE LA.

 

For more information visit:

http://www.lapride.org/

http://eaglela.com/

Last Updated on Saturday, 04 June 2011 14:59
 
Mr Boston Bear 2011 Guest Speaker and Judge: Joe Mannetti PDF Print E-mail
Written by Administrator   
Thursday, 11 August 2011 22:50


What makes a “Bear” a “Bear“? Ask ten different people (assuming that the person you ask is even familiar with our unique queer lexicon!), and you‘ll likely get ten different answers… although most of the definitions will surely involve a mention about hot hairiness or beautiful bulk.

Joe Mannetti-- a multi-titular, passionate community activist and performer-- is both hotly hairy and beautifully bulky… and he embraces his role as a bona fide Bear icon in a big way. But Joe’s dedication to the community-- to the Bear World and to the GLBT community at large-- goes way beyond his notoriety as a woofy pin-up.

For starts, Mannetti is a dedicated and skillful fundraiser. He was named “Bear Fundraiser of the Year 2009” in "The Best of the Bears" Poll… and at the time of our interview at the dawn of 2011, he was busy as ever planning his next big thing.

Joe is a member of Sandy Reinhardt’s philanthropic org Mama’s Family, where he was named “Mama's Care Bear” for his dedication to our community. These accolades are just the start of a long list of titles.

Joe is also (get ready!) Mr. Southern California Cub 2006, Mr. Long Beach Pride Bear/Cub 2008, Mr. Los Angeles Bear 2008, Mr. Southern California Bear 2008, Prince with The Imperial Sovereign Court of All Connecticut, and Mr. International Daddy Bear 2009.

Joe is also an Ambassador of Hope 2010 for The Dab the AIDS Bear Project, a community-based organization of concerned citizens infected and/or affected by HIV and AIDS. Their goal is to prevent new cases of HIV while helping to empower HIV-positive citizens, through awareness and education. Courtesy: Jed Central.blogspot.com and http://www.massbearz.com/

Last Updated on Thursday, 11 August 2011 22:53
 
Bear-y gay PDF Print E-mail
Written by Richard A. Kaye   
Sunday, 04 February 2007 09:20

A subculture of hefty, hirsute gay men is attracting the attention of academics and social critics.

At a conference of literary scholars in December, a friend was interviewing a candidate for an academic position. After answering the usual questions about proposed courses, teaching loads and scholarly interests, the candidate volunteered,

"Oh, by the way, in addition to 19th century American literature, I work on bear studies."

The interlocutors were perplexed. "Bear studies?" one asked. "Do you mean bears in literature — say, William Faulkner's story 'The Bear' ?" Someone else suggested "Winnie the Pooh" — perhaps the candidate worked on children's literature?

It soon became clear, however, that the candidate had something else in mind. By "bear studies," he meant an area of academic research that explored the subculture of hirsute, usually heavy-set gay men — burly guys who identify with a masculine style and who shun the popular image of homosexual guys as smooth, hairless, Calvin-Klein-ish blond young men.
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